IT’S the moment you’ve been waiting for all your life. You’re having a cosy night in, a chicken is roasting in the oven and boom! The love of your life goes down on one knee and asks you for your hand in marriage. He’s sourced a massive blinging stone and raided his mother’s jewellery collection for some precious accompaniments, then enlisted the help of a top-notch jeweller to design you a ring.
But there’s a problem. Unlike the gorgeous Meghan Markle, you’re not bowled over by your sparkler. In fact, it’s not to your taste at all. And it’s something you have to show off to your friends and wear For Ever.
What to do? An engagement ring is more than just a piece of jewellery. Loaded with meaning, it’s a symbol of intent, of love, of your past, present and future together. How easy is it to admit you don’t like it? Should you say anything at all?
Metro agony uncle James McConnachie says: ‘It’s far more important not to have to look at something hideous every day for the rest of your life than to try and spare feelings. You’ll probably find he doesn’t mind in the slightest.
‘In relationships, as in life, honesty is a habit. So say as kindly as you can that you want him every day for the rest of your life but you don’t want to wear this ring for quite the same period — and quickly suggest you pick out another one together.’
Adelle Thompson, head of buying at Beaverbrooks jewellers, agrees it can be difficult to get it right first time around. ‘There are so many different options when choosing a ring, from the design and material of the band through to the cut, colour, clarity and carat of the sparkling diamond.
‘At Beaverbrooks we offer a range of proposal rings — cubic zirconia replicas of diamond engagement rings that start at £40 and allow nervous proposers to pop the question without the worry of spending on something not to their intended’s taste.
‘If a customer isn’t 100 per cent happy with their engagement ring, we will always be happy to offer a refund or exchange as long as the ring hasn’t been ordered specifically to a customer’s requirements and is returned unworn in its original packaging within 30 days of purchase.’