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Connect: Let’s talk about sex

SEXUAL taboos have taken a spanking of late. Ever since Fifty Shades Of Grey sent soft porn mainstream, adventurous bedroom shenanigans don’t have the shock factor they once did. And amen to that.

Or should that be a-women? After all, female sextech founders are providing a glimpse of a new era. Nonetheless, they’ve had to overcome restrictive policies to do so. Last year, female sex-toy company Dame Products sued New York City’s Metropolitan Transit Authority for rejecting its advertising campaign, alleging sexism.

The Consumer Electronics Show (CES) 2019 was also hit by gender-bias claims when it branded Lora DiCarlo’s Osé sex toy for women ‘immoral’ and ‘obscene’. It all seems hypocritical in light of all the male-gaze VR porn that has been showcased since 2016.

Good vibes: Dame Products has stimulating finger devices

Thankfully, 2020’s randy revolution is one of self-care, female empowerment and sexual wellness. Andrea Barrica, author of Sextech Revolution: The Future Of Sexual Wellness, estimates that Amazon lists 60,000 sexual wellness products. That’s a lot of satisfied customers.

Meanwhile, crowdfunding platform Crowdcube values the female sex toys market at $12billion (£9billion) and predicts that the sexual wellness industry at large will reach $122billion (£94billion) by 2026. Prepare to get hot under the collar…

Stay positive

This year’s CES marked the first time sex technology products were allowed on the show floor and they also qualified for awards in the health and wellness category. Not surprisingly, there was a focus on devices designed to ‘own’ one’s sexual pleasure.

Take wearable sex-toy brand Crave ( In 2014, the Vesper vibrator/necklace was released as a way to remove the secretive nature of sex-toy ownership. Similarly, two new prototypes, the Vesper Touch and Tease — fashionable vibrators/rings crafted from silicone and stainless steel — invite women to openly embrace their pursuit of pleasure.

Equally empowering is the Lioness (, £176). Marrying built-in sensors, data collection and an intuitive app, the smart vibrator quantifies arousal, letting users measure and track orgasm frequency and intensity. It also issues tips tailored to each user’s behaviour. The Lioness Generation 2, an app and software update coming this year, will feature AI-driven guidance improvements, implemented from more than 30,000 ‘climactic data points’ collated since launch.

In tune: the BlueMotion NEX|3

And don’t feel left out, chaps. The Yo sperm test (, £46.95) is a godsend for checking fertility. The test uses a microscopic camera to analyse a sperm sample, then sends results to a smartphone or PC.

Well now

Growing up can be confusing but help is at hand. Planned Parenthood’s Roo ( is an online text-messaging service designed to answer young people’s sexual health questions 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Created in response to research that revealed teenagers don’t ask their parents, Google or fellow social media users for advice on sex, the gender-neutral chatbot launched last year.

Lucky enough to be in tune with your sexual desires? Great. But becoming confident enough to openly claim and communicate them can be tricky thanks to those niggling, dwindling social stigmas.

The myth-busting Ferly app (, free) is a guide to sex and intimacy for the next generation of female-identifying users (or ‘womxn’, a term created to include trans, non-binary and other minorities). Featuring podcasts, guided practices and sensual stories, the mindfulness app is engineered to help users discover pleasure in a shame-free, accessible space.

Good health

Hold on: MyHixel boosts men’s control

As sexual wellness becomes a watchword of modern love-making, we shouldn’t forget about the importance of sexual health. While visiting a clinic is always advised, technology can help too. MyHixel (, £160) is designed to tackle premature ejaculation without pills, combining a cognitive behavioural therapy approach with a goal-setting gamified app and pleasure device designed to achieve climax control.

Innovative: Morari tackles premature ejaculation

Emerging sextech firm Morari Medical will address the same issue with a wearable employing ‘neuromodulation’ (ie, alteration of nerve activity via targeted stimulus) to put a block on all those out-of-nowhere climaxes. A commercial release of the device is expected next year.

Nifty: Pulse’s lubricant won’t destroy the mood

Also, put your finger on the… Pulse (, $199, US only). A warming lube dispenser, the nifty little squeeze is a resounding solution for menopausal women suffering dryness. While lubricant is a great leveller, the mess it can create (not to mention that buzz-kill coldness) all too often pops the bonking balloon. Enter measured and gently heated oils and lubricants pods dispensed directly into the palm of your hand. Hey presto.

Take control: The trainer helps strengthen pelvic floor muscles

Equally as magical is the NHS-endorsed Elvie Trainer (, £169). The award-winning Kegel trainer provides fun workouts and real-time visualisation in order to strengthen pelvic floor muscles, leading to better orgasms and bladder control (incontinence affects up to 80 per cent of expectant and new mums).

Hit the high notes

In tune: the BlueMotion NEX|3

The female-owned pioneers of music-sync vibrator OhMiBod commemorate their 14th year with the launch of a vibrating couples ring, the BlueMotion NEX|3 (, released in March), and new app functionality that will allow integration with AirPods so you can enjoy the rhythm of songs and self-pleasure without blasting the neighbours with tunes.

Likewise, We-Vibe’s Chorus (, £179.99) device is a toy designed for partners to influence and control each other’s pleasure remotely. The tech has been rejigged for a more consistent connection, bypassing current Bluetooth connectivity challenges created by the water content of the human body. Who knew?

These days self-love is more intuitive than ever. Lelo’s new male-focused device, the F1s Prototype (, £119.00), comes complete with a developer’s kit: enabling users to access an array of software tools to make it do all kinds of bespoke naughty things. Time for a cold shower…

Sextech’s bonkers future?

Silent sex

Tomorrow’s climaxes could be on the quiet side. Ioba Toys, maker of the ‘world’s first silent G-spot massager’, says it has found a solution to too much noise, replacing vibrating with a repetitive ‘come hither’ tapping motion. Could this usher in a new age of super-silent sex toys? Hush now.

Sexbot brothels

Last year a Lucerne brothel (prostitution is legal in Switzerland) replaced most of its sex workers with ‘love dolls’, reducing charges from 200 to 90 Swiss francs (£160 to £70). The future of sex work, perhaps, but it’s not without pitfalls. Each doll needs to be blasted with a pressure washer and pumped with disinfectant after use.

Cyber kisses

Researchers in the US and Hong Kong have created artificial skin, brimming with tiny sensors, which creates the illusion of being touched by a human. Initial use will be for non-sexual virtual reality experiences but down the line we could see such technologies integrated into sex toys, sex dolls and more.

Psychic orgasms

At last year’s International Congress on Love and Sex with Robots, a researcher from Brazil revealed work on the Neurodildo, a prototype mind-controlled sex toy. Designed for people in long-distance relationships and also for those with disabilities or movement restrictions, the project could lead to brain-wave-ready orgasms.