THE fact it’s titled Unf*** Yourself is an indicator that this self-help book is not going to hold your hand and tell you everything is going to be OK. Written by straight-talking Scot Gary John Bishop rather than some yoga-loving Californian hippy, Unf*** Yourself is 206 pages of no-bulls*** advice on how to ‘get out of your head and into your life’.
Here’s the gist of what he has to say:
1. Change the words you use. Rather than telling yourself ‘I’m going to lose weight’, tell yourself ‘I’m losing weight’.
2. You have to have the will for change. We all want to be filthy rich but are you willing to work 80 hours a week, skip holidays and risk it all to get it?
3. Stop thinking, ‘This is too hard’ and start thinking, ‘I got this’. Put things in perspective and realise that you’ve overcome big problems in the past, and so you’re going to ride this one out too.
4. Embrace uncertainty. Success never comes without risk. Even if you’re the smartest or the hardest working, there’s no guarantee of anything.
5. You’re not your thoughts, you’re what you do. Don’t want to go to the gym/brave the party where you know nobody/confront the boss about a pay rise? Don’t think about it, just do it. You don’t have to feel like today is your day, you just have to act like it is.
6. Be relentless. Sometimes you just have to grind it out and hustle for what you want.
7. Expect nothing and accept everything. The greater the gap between what you expect to happen and what actually happens, the more unhappy you will be. So live in the moment.
Unf*** Yourself is out now